It seems interesting to note that timing seems to be among the important factors contributing to the success of a conversation. This includes both the point of entering a conversation and more importantly, when to draw it to a close.
Most of us have some trouble initiating a conversation. It seems awkward to start a conversation with an acquaintance during a social or corporate function and it seems even more challenging to strike up a conversation with a stranger in the midst of a convention or seminar.
The reason why we are experiencing such “trauma” in initiating a conversation lies in the “connection” factor. We do not understand one another, so most of us have a tendency to prefer being approached by someone than to approach someone. If we are to explore this issue a little bit deeper, we will realise that what we need to get that conversation going is a connection, a shared idea or area of interest. Once we identify this, the conversation will continue on its own. The fact is that we need to talk to somebody first before we can connect.
Therefore, we will need to take a proactive step to initiate a conversation because if all of us wait for someone to approach, then there will surely be no conversation. The proverb “fortune often favours the bold” seems to ring true here.
And when it comes to ending a conversation, all of us have different take on this. Some may feel that it’s best to end the conversation when the other party becomes bored and yet there are many others who feel that the other party should be the one to end the conversation. I personally feel that ultimately, circumstances is key. If you are in a hurry to go somewhere, try using a joke to lighten the atmosphere before turning slowly to signal your departure from the conversation. If you are not in a hurry but wish to end the conversation, try informing the other party that you are going for some drinks / food and make your move. Regardless of your techniques, it’s best to be tactful.
Choose your moments and exit with ease and grace.